Hi.About a week from now is the one-year anniversary of this site. Happy birthday, site. I didn’t bake you a cake. Maybe I should. You’ve been through a lot this first year of your life. In the past year, this site has been visited by ~18,000 people....
There are loads of labels for gender identity, and more keep emerging. Each label provides a way of grouping people by some sort of shared attribute. Some people are really into labels, and how they provide conceptual “bins” to sort ideas into. Others...
A lot of people tell me that it’s confusing for kids to learn about different labels for gender outside of just “boy” and “girl.” I agree that gender labels are confusing kids, but not in the way that many adults think. When I was born, I was given a label that...
It took me a long time to figure out that I was transgender and admit it was true. But why did it take me so long? When you’re trans, you should just know, right? Well, kind of. It’s complicated. I did know—but I didn’t know how to interpret what I knew. ...
For the first three decades of my life, everyone who knew me thought I was a woman. I never was. I’m agender. But I didn’t correct their misunderstandings until I was 30 years old. The whole time, being treated like I was a woman made me miserable. So why...
When I first learned the word “agender,” I immediately recognized myself in it. I never expected to find a word for my experience—I just figured I was different in a way that nobody could perceive or understand, so it would never really count. I just needed to be a...
