DECONFORMING

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The mind-bending weirdness of social dysphoria

The mind-bending weirdness of social dysphoria

There’s this experience I'm all too familiar with that goes by the jargony name "social dysphoria." It happens when people treat you according to a role—and that role is in conflict with who you are. (It's part of the experience of gender dysphoria, which can also be...

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Are you transgender? If you are, it’s OK

Are you transgender? If you are, it’s OK

More and more people are coming out as transgender these days. Transgender is a word that means that who you are doesn't line up with the gender that was assigned to you. It's pretty common to hear cisgender folks (especially if they're older or conservative) calling...

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Bisexual: a quick definition

Bisexual: a quick definition

Bisexual is a sexual orientation that describes a person who is attracted to people across two or more genders. The prefix “bi” in the word bisexual comes from Latin, and it means “two.” Sometimes "bisexual" is abbreviated simply to "bi." There are two...

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What does TERF stand for?

What does TERF stand for?

TERF is an acronym that stands for Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminist. The acronym is used as a noun, pronounced like "turf." While that acronym might make it sound like it describes a technical and complex thing, it's actually pretty simple. TERFs are characterized...

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