Hi. I’m Adrien Converse. I’m a biology-loving surreal artist, musician, and content strategist living in the quirky, cloudy town of Bellingham, WA.

I also happen to be a person who has no gender. I’m not a man, and I’m not a woman.

The word for this is agender. For whatever reason, my genderlessness seems to break the brains of a good deal of people in the society I live in—even to an extent that they get really upset and tell me I need to just pick “one or the other.” It’s very strange to witness. By being me, I’m breaking a bunch of meaningless rules for how a person is supposed to go about their life.

adrien converseThese rules come in many forms. Maybe they’re rules defined by my legal documents for what gender I’m supposed to be, or rules for how doctors categorize me, or rules for how people feel they’re supposed to address me, or rules for what bathroom I’m supposed to use, or rules for who I spend time with and when, or rules for what clothes I’m supposed to wear … etcetera.  They’re everywhere, strangely escaping many peoples’ notice. And there’s no way for me not to break them.

It’s a bizarre experience. 

People usually assume I’m either a man or a woman, even though I’m neither, and this means I have a front row seat to how we arbitrarily treat people based on what gender we think they are in this society. 

It’s very, very interesting. 

I started this site to talk about what I’m learning. It’s named Deconforming, because I see lot of pressure to conform going on, and I’m pretty much over it. How about something different?

A few other facts about me

I’m the surreal artist and producer/composer Lurm. I also co-founded the content marketing agency, Overthink Group.

Don’t be a stranger: I love connecting with like-minded folks. Find me on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook.