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Why are we confusing kids with gender labels?

Why are we confusing kids with gender labels?

A lot of people tell me that it’s confusing for kids to learn about different labels for gender outside of just “boy” and “girl.”  I agree that gender labels are confusing kids, but not in the way that many adults think. When I was born, I was given a label that...
The tricky process of figuring out I was transgender

The tricky process of figuring out I was transgender

It took me a long time to figure out that I was transgender and admit it was true. But why did it take me so long? When you’re trans, you should just know, right? Well, kind of. It’s complicated. I did know—but I didn’t know how to interpret what I knew. ...
7 reasons I pretended to be a woman

7 reasons I pretended to be a woman

For the first three decades of my life, everyone who knew me thought I was a woman. I never was. I’m agender. But I didn’t correct their misunderstandings until I was 30 years old. The whole time, being treated like I was a woman made me miserable. So why...
I’m just doing what it takes to be me

I’m just doing what it takes to be me

When I first learned the word “agender,” I immediately recognized myself in it. I never expected to find a word for my experience—I just figured I was different in a way that nobody could perceive or understand, so it would never really count. I just needed to be a...
What does “deadname” mean?

What does “deadname” mean?

Deadname is a word used in the transgender community to reference the given name that a trans person has rejected, because it misrepresented their gender. This is in contrast to a person’s chosen name, which is the name they selected to more accurately reflect...