The mind-bending weirdness of social dysphoria

The mind-bending weirdness of social dysphoria

There’s this experience I’m all too familiar with that goes by the jargony name “social dysphoria.” It happens when people treat you according to a role—and that role is in conflict with who you are. (It’s part of the experience of gender...
Why do people see me as either a man or a woman?

Why do people see me as either a man or a woman?

As an agender person, I don’t know what having gender feels like. The only real experience I have with gender is that almost everyone I’ve met takes for granted that all people are one of two genders, including me. This has improved a lot in the last year or so...
Offensive terms to trans people: an ally’s guide

Offensive terms to trans people: an ally’s guide

Our words have power to create and perpetuate ways of perceiving the world, whether for good or for bad. Transgender folks deal with a lot of complex forms of discrimination, and the language we use can play a big role in either lessening that or promoting it. Today,...
The meaning of transmasculine and transfeminine

The meaning of transmasculine and transfeminine

There are two words deeply entwined with the concepts of masculinity and femininity that different transgender folks often use to describe themselves. Transmasculine means that someone is transgender in the direction of masculinity, but not that they are necessarily...
Are you transgender? If you are, it’s OK

Are you transgender? If you are, it’s OK

More and more people are coming out as transgender these days. Transgender is a word that means that who you are doesn’t line up with the gender that was assigned to you. It’s pretty common to hear cisgender folks (especially if they’re older or...