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I’m just doing what it takes to be me

I’m just doing what it takes to be me

When I first learned the word “agender,” I immediately recognized myself in it. I never expected to find a word for my experience—I just figured I was different in a way that nobody could perceive or understand, so it would never really count. I just needed to be a...
What does “deadname” mean?

What does “deadname” mean?

Deadname is a word used in the transgender community to reference the given name that a trans person has rejected, because it misrepresented their gender. This is in contrast to a person’s chosen name, which is the name they selected to more accurately reflect...
The mind-bending weirdness of social dysphoria

The mind-bending weirdness of social dysphoria

There’s this experience I’m all too familiar with that goes by the jargony name “social dysphoria.” It happens when people treat you according to a role—and that role is in conflict with who you are. (It’s part of the experience of gender...
Why do people see me as either a man or a woman?

Why do people see me as either a man or a woman?

As an agender person, I don’t know what having gender feels like. The only real experience I have with gender is that almost everyone I’ve met takes for granted that all people are one of two genders, including me. This has improved a lot in the last year or so...
Offensive terms to trans people: an ally’s guide

Offensive terms to trans people: an ally’s guide

Our words have power to create and perpetuate ways of perceiving the world, whether for good or for bad. Transgender folks deal with a lot of complex forms of discrimination, and the language we use can play a big role in either lessening that or promoting it. Today,...