For the first three decades of my life, everyone who knew me thought I was a woman. I never was. I’m agender. But I didn’t correct their misunderstandings until I was 30 years old. The whole time, being treated like I was a woman made me miserable. So why...
When I first learned the word “agender,” I immediately recognized myself in it. I never expected to find a word for my experience—I just figured I was different in a way that nobody could perceive or understand, so it would never really count. I just needed to be a...
Deadname is a word used in the transgender community to reference the given name that a trans person has rejected, because it misrepresented their gender. This is in contrast to a person’s chosen name, which is the name they selected to more accurately reflect...
There’s this experience I’m all too familiar with that goes by the jargony name “social dysphoria.” It happens when people treat you according to a role—and that role is in conflict with who you are. (It’s part of the experience of gender...
As an agender person, I don’t know what having gender feels like. The only real experience I have with gender is that almost everyone I’ve met takes for granted that all people are one of two genders, including me. This has improved a lot in the last year or so...
