DECONFORMING

A site about being yourself no matter how much the world tells you to be somebody else

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This is not a woman’s body.

This is not a woman’s body.

I've been experiencing gender dysphoria for all of my waking life since puberty (and for a lot of the time before that). It took me a long time to own up to that. The more that I do, the more I’m able to really understand how strange and disturbing it’s been to have...

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Transphobia 101: how to not be transphobic

Transphobia 101: how to not be transphobic

Many people have been working hard to change our society so that transgender people have more basic human rights. There's still a lot of work to be done, but we've been fighting for a better world—and things are changing. It's tough going, but stuff is happening. Part...

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What I’m doing and how you can help

What I’m doing and how you can help

I started this website about six months ago because I recognized a serious problem, and I realized that I had the skills to start doing something about it. I'm now at a point where I need help to get the work I've been doing to gain some traction. So I'm reaching out...

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What does it mean to be agender?

What does it mean to be agender?

Agender: a person who has an internal sense of being neither male nor female nor some combination of male and femaleMerriam Webster I’m no gender expert. In fact, I don’t even have a gender. You’d be better off calling me a “no-gender” expert. Expert? Still not...

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Is it belief, or is it conformity?

Is it belief, or is it conformity?

It’s one thing to have a system of beliefs you live by. It’s another thing to live among people who accept you only on the condition that you believe what everyone’s supposed to believe. So many people live in that kind of social environment. For a long time, I was...

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