The Deconforming Blog

Guides to gender identity, transgender vocabulary, coming out, and allyship.

"Are you a girl?" A story about labels

A lot of people tell me that it’s confusing for kids to learn about different labels for gender outside of just “boy”...

I publicly came out as transgender on January 1, 2019. (To be more specific, I’m agender.)

For the first three decades of my life, everyone who knew me thought I was a woman. I never was. I’m agender....

There are loads of labels for gender identity, and more keep emerging. Each label provides a way of grouping people by some...

More and more people are coming out as transgender these days.

In the culture I live in, we usually treat people as though they are straight and cisgender. But these labels are often...

Whether or not you realize it, you were probably assigned a sex and a gender when you were born. This assignment would...

Your story is an abstract representation of you in the world. It comes in many forms: reminiscences with friends, anecdotes shared about...

Gender dysphoria is a nightmarish state that’s really difficult to describe, but in this post, I’m going to do my best to...

This is a reference page explaining terms that are used in conversations around gender. I’ll be adding to it over time as...